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Submitted by: Tim Denio

When you begin to suspect your other half is having an affair, more often than not your otherwise logical and sensible approach to life, can go straight out the window.

We start to freely allow our overwhelming emotions to take the driving seat, and toss out our calm and collected way of thinking.

The thought, and often the mere anticipation of being hurt emotionally blurs our vision. The mere possibility of having the trust in the relationship broken is initially, far too much to take.

Don’t worry, as you are not alone in this.

But this brings along a pitfall, which far too many people fall into and don’t even realize it.

When you are overcome with emotion at being suspicious of your spouse you get trapped into what I call the “elusive syndrome”.

Let me explain. If you suspect your partner of having an affair, what are you desperate for at this very moment? The answer is probably to find out the truth!

However, what you may not realize is that while you genuinely DO want to know the truth, deep down you are scared to be faced with it.

As confusing as it may seem, in many cases, at least at the start it actually is easier for you to cope with the horrid feelings of being suspicious about your husband or wife, rather than having to deal with the devastation of knowing it’s true.

So while you yearn for the truth, the fear of “facing” it, makes you slip into the elusive syndrome.

And what exactly does that mean? Simply put, you become somewhat blind and elusive to the obvious signs of cheating that your spouse may be displaying everyday…and instead you spend your time and energy trying to look for clues that are not readily available or harder to find.

But why would you do this? The reason is, as long as you ignore the clues you already have, and continue the desperate search for the more elusive proof, you allow yourself to remain in the suspicious mode.

And as I said before, as strange as it might seem, as humans our minds are hard-wired to protect us from pain.

Even the mere act of postponing the pain, is our way to protect us for as long as possible.

So my advice to you would be to aware of the “elusive syndrome”, and start to observe and look for the clues right under your nose.

Watch for the changes in your spouses’ behavior that you see while you’re together, rather than searching for clues of when they are away from you.

Eventually of course, you will want to know what’s taking place in your absence, but a good starting point is being more observant when you are together.

About the Author: Tim Denio has helped hundreds of men and women find out if their spouse is cheating on them. Learn the proven shortcuts to find out if your partner is cheating on you at

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